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~J.A. James, “The Duties of Parents” 1828

On parents it depends in a great measure, what their children are to be . . .
happy–or miserable in themselves,
a comfort–or a curse to their relationships,
an ornament–or a deformity to society,
a seraph–or a fiend in eternity!

It is indeed a fearsome thing to be a parent, and is enough to awaken the anxious, trembling inquiry in every parent’s heart: “Lord, who is sufficient for these things?” 

graceless parent is a most dreadful character! Oh! to see the father and mother of an expanding family, with a crowd of young immortals growing up around them–and teaching worldliness to their offspring, and leading them to perdition by the power of their own example!

A sheep leading her lambs into a den of hungry tigers, would be a shocking sight! But to see parents conducting their children to the bottomless pit–is most horrible!!

HT: Grace Gems


Indelible impressions!

(William Bacon Stevens, “Parental Responsibility“)

We aid and abet the spiritual death of our children, by our irreligious example–both in doing that which is positively wrong, and in neglecting to do what is as positively required. As young as our child is–it has learned to join together precept and practice. And if we are professors of religion, our child has put along side of this profession–our daily walk and conversation, and is perpetually drawing inferences from the one to the other, either for, or against, the truth which we profess.

Uncurbed tempers, ill-governed passions;
unbridled tongues, uncharitable words;
lack of meekness, and gentleness, and truth;
lack of sobriety of mind, and kindliness of heart;
the absence of that strict conscientiousness which should mark all our actions;
neglect of the Bible and of prayer;
disregard of the means of grace;
irrepressible worldliness, in ever dwelling upon “What shall we eat, and what shall we drink, and with what shall we be clothed?”
–are leaving indelible impressions upon the minds of our offspring! So that, copying our habits of thought, speech, and action–our child’scharacter in its essential characteristics, may be formed for eternity; before its mind is able to receive the precepts which perhaps we occasionally teach.

~Grace Gems

Teach love to others. Press it continually on your children. Tell them the great duty of kindness, helpfulness, and considerateness, one for another. Remind them constantly that kindness, good nature, and good temper, are among the first evidences which Christ requires in children. If they cannot know much, or explain doctrines–they can understand love. A child’s religion is worth very little if it only consists in repeating texts and hymns. As useful as they are, they are often . . .

learned without thought,

remembered without feeling,

repeated without consideration of their meaning,

and forgotten when childhood is gone!

By all means let children be taught texts and hymns; but let not such teaching be made everything in their religion. Teach them to keep their tempers, to be kind one to another, to be unselfish, good-natured, obliging, patient, gentle, forgiving.

~ J.C. Ryle




My daughter took this picture when Grandma met her first great-granddaughter.




meditating on ~
“…be imitators of God as dear children.”  Ephesians 5:1

remembering ~
a fun evening with friends

beyond the front porch ~
the puppy barking to come inside ~ a balmy, spring-like morning ~ blooming snowdrops

from the garden~
wooden pallets ready to start composting area ~ pea seeds for planting

around the kitchen~
leftover blackberry cobbler ~ bread baking day

school notes~
algebra 1 finished!

currently reading~
the latest ‘Living’ magazine looking for gardening tips

lessons learned from the Labs~
free toys can be found in the woods

at the morning watch~
Rob Bell’s new book comes out next month.  Does he believe that Hell is empty?

thinking about the week ahead~
parlor clean-up ~ errands Tuesday ~ an entire week with my husband not on travel

one of my favorite things~
playing games with my family

Serve your King today!



Should I celebrate Christmas?

These thoughts began a few years ago and have only become more intense this year because of a few other serious blog posts.  I have no desire to decorate because that involves not only my time, but sometimes lots of money.  Gift giving is almost a required aspect, so I haven’t even approached the subject knowing it will be painful.  At this point, I am simply trying to honor the Lord with how to spend my time during this ‘season’.

Sick mother

Fifty years of smoking has led to serious health issues for my mother.  After spending the better portion of the last decade nursing her failing husband, her health care was put on hold until now.  Complications after another stent was put into her leg caused some worry, but she’s on the mend now and looking at getting her other leg cleared soon.

Patriocentric theology

I have been a closet supporter of the patriarchy movement for quite a while.  I have desired my husband to be the spiritual head of our home, wanted to be a stay-at-home, homeschool mother, and hoped to keep my daughter and son home until they marry, are all thoughts that drove my way of thinking and influenced most of my decisions.  …until recently.

Karen Campbell has a series of podcasts that I have been listening to.  Boy!  She has opened my eyes to some of the problems in this movement.  Now, to be sure, I have known about some of the issues associated with some of these groups.  For example, I am aware that many in this group are Dominionists.  And recently, in Vision Forum’s new catalog they have started selling Rushdonney’s books.  But now I am questioning the actual biblical support for some of their teachings.

Talk about rocking your world!!

A new church

It has been six years since we left our last church.  Since then we have mostly had what we call ‘home church’ which consisted of Bible Study, prayer and singing of hymns.  Initially, there were two other families that we met with, but they both felt the need to join others churches.

A few weeks ago, my husband decided that it was time to try church again, so we have begun attending a small, local congregation were we know many of the families and the pastor.  It is a Presbyterian Church of America (PCA) church which is different than the United Methodist, American Baptist and Southern Baptist churches that we have been part of in the past.  I am quite familiar with the official teachings of the PCA church and have a number of differences in my personal theology, but right now it is wonderful to be back with a group of believers in corporate worship.


I am remembering these words of comfort from my Savior,

“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.  Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”   Matt. 11:28-30

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Since writing this post I have come across two other blogs concerning patriocentric teaching, specifically Michael and Debi Pearl’s methodology.  Here are the links:

I am in the process of reading these sites in hopes of a deeper understanding of the problems of this movement.



Now that we are in the midst of the ‘Christmas’ season, I’d like to share some different perspectives on the holiday.  Personally, I’ve struggled with the idea of celebrating  Christmas for a number of years and as a family we have dropped many of the ‘traditions’ that are associated with it.  For example, we no longer incorporate the Roman Catholic Advent or the worldly Santa & elves.

I wrote about this two years ago citing an A.W. Pink article that speaks of the  “cruel bondage to the prevailing custom of “Christmas”, namely that of exchanging “gifts…” and I wondered how the Lord would have us proceed.

Pilgrim, of DefCon blog, wrote a convicting post recently on how his family has decided to deal with this issue.  The post and comment thread offer much to think about.

A radical approach to December 25th: Why we won’t be celebrating Christmas this year

Judy, of the simple front porch blog, has added her thoughts, as well, sharing that she would like to preserve the joy that seems to be inherent to this time of year.

Here’s another perspective from Dave Hunt of The Berean Call:

Christmas as generally celebrated today is one of many carry-overs from Roman Catholicism that survived the Reformation. Historian Will Durant reminds us that Roman Catholicism grew out of the merger between paganism and Christianity that took place under Constantine in the early 300s. Commenting upon the resulting “Christianization” of the Roman Empire, which Reconstructionists such as Coalition on Revival (COR) director Jay Grimstead look back to fondly as a model of what they hope to achieve, Durant wrote:

Paganism survived…in the form of ancient rites and customs condoned…by an often indulgent Church….Statues of Isis and Horus were renamed Mary and Jesus…the Saturnalia [Festival of Saturn in celebration of the winter solstice] was replaced by Christmas celebration…[I]ncense, lights, flowers, processions, vestments…which had pleased the people in older [pagan] cults were domesticated and cleansed in the Ritual of the Church….

In spite of its pagan/Roman Catholic origins and crass commercialization, we can rejoice that Christmas annually brings a reminder of the Savior’s birth. Unfortunately, however, Christmas festivities generally perpetuate the confusion concerning who Jesus Christ really is, why He came, and what He accomplished. This is not surprising, considering the misunderstandings even among His own disciples at the first advent – and the far greater confusion that the Bible warns will precede His second coming. Indeed, the whole world – including millions of “Christians” – will follow and worship the Antichrist, convinced that he is the true Christ.

Christmas celebrations remind us that the same misunderstandings that prevented so many from recognizing Christ when He came to earth will prevail when He returns. The causes of confusion 1,900 years ago remain the key issues today: What is the Messiah’s true mission – and the nature of His kingdom? When, how, and by whom will the Kingdom be established – and what is its relationship to Israel and the church? Many “Christians” today are blind in the same way as those early “disciples” who turned from Christ because He didn’t meet their false messianic expectations.

Even John the Baptist became so disillusioned that he demanded of Christ, “Art thou he that should come, or look we for another?” (Mt 11:3). Such doubts seem impossible for the one whom God had sent to “prepare the way of the Lord”! Already filled with the Holy Spirit as a six-month-old embryo, John had leaped in the womb of his mother Elizabeth upon hearing the voice of the virgin Mary, who had just learned that she would give birth to the Son of God. Called and inspired of God to be the “forerunner of the Messiah,” John testified, “He that sent me to baptize…said unto me, Upon whom thou shalt see the Spirit descending, and remaining on him, the same is he…and I saw, and bare record that this is the Son of God” (Jn 1:33-34). Confident in that supernatural revelation, John boldly declared, “Behold the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sin of the world!” (Jn 1:29). Yet the day came when, in despair, he sent two disciples to ask Christ whether He really was the Messiah after all!

Although given supernatural revelation as to His identity, John completely misunderstood Christ’s mission. Hadn’t the prophets said that the Messiah would set up His kingdom and reign in Jerusalem? Then why was he, the herald of the Messiah, in prison! John did not understand that Christ had come to die for our sins so that both Jew and Gentile, united in one church, could go to heaven. Nor did he comprehend that there had to be a Second Coming.

So it was with the disciples in the Garden of Gethsemane. Amazed, they watched the One whom they thought had all power, as, seemingly powerless, He was arrested, bound, and led away. Obviously, Jesus of Nazareth couldn’t be the Messiah after all! Dreams shattered, they fled for their lives. Likewise the two on the road to Emmaus: “We trusted that it had been he which should have redeemed Israel…[but they] crucified him!” (Lk 24:19-24). His death, which we recognize today is the very heart of the gospel and without which we have no life, convinced Christ’s contemporaries that He could not possibly be the Messiah, the Savior of the world.

“If he be the King of Israel, let him now come down from the cross, and we will believe him!” (Mt 27:40-44) was the jeering taunt of the bloodthirsty mob and the religious leaders gloating at the foot of His cross. “If thou be the Christ, save thyself and us!” echoed one of the thieves hanging beside him. Whom He came to save, from what, to what, and how, was clearly not understood at the time by anyone – not even by His closest disciples.

When Christ tried to explain that He must die for the sins of the world, Peter rebuked Him for being so “negative.” Yet Peter, only moments before, had declared by revelation from the Father that Jesus was the Christ (Mt 16:16-17). Obviously he didn’t understand the Messiah’s mission, even though he knew who He was. “Get thee behind me, Satan!” (Mt 16:22-23), Christ had retorted quickly to Peter, showing the importance He put upon correcting such a gross misunderstanding of His mission.

So it was with those in Jerusalem (Jn 2:23-25) who “believed in his name, when they saw the miracles which he did.” They believed He was the Messiah, but they had a false view of what that meant. “Jesus did not commit himself unto them” because He knew what was in their hearts and that they would not believe the truth. We see the same error in those in John 6, who, because Christ had healed and fed them, wanted to “take him by force to make him [their] king” (Jn 6:15). There were many who called themselves His “disciples” (today they would be called “Christians”) who had a false view of the Messiah, and when He tried to explain the truth to them, would not hear it but “went back and walked no more with him” (Jn 6:66).

We learn from Christ how to handle the multitudes who want to follow Him for the wrong reasons. We must do today what He did then. Many came “forward” to tell Jesus they believed in Him and would follow Him faithfully. Contrary to today’s methods, Christ didn’t have His disciples quickly sign up such persons as “church members” before they changed their minds, and get them involved in the choir or some committee in order to keep them active in the church. “The foxes have holes and the birds have nests, but I have nowhere to lay my head” (Mt 8:20), Jesus told the eager would-be converts. “Are you certain you really want to follow me?” Such “negativism”!

“So you want to follow Me?” Christ would say. “Then let Me tell you where we’re going. I’m heading for a hill outside Jerusalem called Calvary where they’ll nail Me to a cross. So if you would be faithful to Me to the end, you might as well make up your mind: take up your cross right now, and follow Me, because that’s where we’re going!”

Today we’re far too sophisticated to present the gospel in such negative terms. We’ve studied success motivation, psychology and Dale Carnegie courses in “How to Win Friends and Influence People” and consider such new techniques to be ideal for “winning people to Christ.” So we fill the churches with multitudes who imagine that Christ’s mission is to make them feel good about themselves by building up their self-esteem, answering their selfish prayers and fulfilling their self-centered agendas.

The Reconstruction/Kingdom/Dominionists are more confused than John the Baptist, though their error is similar. They refuse to walk in the rejection of Christ, bearing the reproach of His cross, because that would be “defeatism.” They imagine that we’re in the Millennial kingdom already and are supposed to act like “King’s kids.” They think that it’s our task to establish that Kingdom through taking “dominion” over the media, educational institutions, and political leadership. The “signs and wonders” promoters imagine that they are in the process of taking dominion over all disease and even over death itself without the resurrection and return of Christ.

It’s all very positive and ecumenical. Christian lobbyists are willing to work with Moonies and Mormons and all others who are in favor of bringing traditional values back to America. And at Christmas time, once again, being able to publicly display a cross or a crèche becomes a rallying point – a very low common denominator indeed for ecumenical agreement. In defense of such folly, Christian leaders stoutly defend the correctness of working with all those “who call Jesus ‘Lord.'” Seemingly forgotten are the words of Christ:

“Many will say to me…Lord, Lord, have we not…in thy name done many wonderful works? And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me…” (Mt 7:22-23).

There are multitudes, such as Mormons and Catholics (to say nothing of many Baptists, Lutherans, Methodists, et al.) who call Jesus “Lord” but are not saved.

On October 17 [1989], Paul and Jan Crouch welcomed three Catholics to their Praise the Lord program: two priests and a woman lay leader. Paul displayed his usual naïveté and incredible ignorance of theology by smoothing over any differences between Protestants and Catholics as “simply matters of semantics.” In his eager embrace of Transubstantiation, a heresy so great that thousands died at the stake rather than accept it, he declared:

“Well, we [Protestants] believe the same thing. So you see one of these things that has divided us all of these years [Transubstantiation] shouldn’t have divided us all along because we were really meaning the same thing but just saying it a little differently….I [am] eradicating the word ‘Protestant’ even out of my vocabulary….I’m not protesting anything anymore…it is…time for Catholics and non-Catholics to come together as one in the Spirit and one in the Lord.”

But Catholics have a different gospel of salvation by works and ritual through the essential mediation of that Church.

Christmas, with its emphasis upon “baby Jesus,” tends to perpetuate another serious Catholic heresy: the pernicious myth of Christ’s subservience to His mother, which Roman Catholicism has deliberately promoted for centuries. Mary certainly should be called “blessed” as the mother of our Lord – but she is not “Co-Mediatrix” and “Co-Redemptrix” as Romanism teaches. In Catholic cathedrals throughout the world, for example, one quickly notices that the paintings, statuary, and stained glass give Mary the dominant role. She is even at times shown on the cross as our Redeemer. Jesus is either a helpless babe on His mother’s breast, a small child between her knees, or a lifeless victim of the Cross in her arms. Never is she in subjection to Him, and rarely if ever is He shown in the triumph of His resurrection. She is the “Queen of Heaven,” where Jesus remains a child subject to her direction.

Typical is the beautiful thirteenth-century stained-glass window we recently observed in a church in France. At the top are the words Le Pergatoire, indicating that it is a depiction of “purgatory.” Mary and Jesus are shown on a cloud (i.e., in heaven), with the tormented souls in the flames of purgatory below them, arms extended upward in supplication. Are they crying out to Christ for help? No, they are appealing to Mary. She wears the regal crown.

And Jesus, the Lord of Glory, who triumphed over Satan at the Cross and now sits at the right hand of the Father – how is He depicted? As a child about seven years old, standing between the “Queen of Heaven’s” knees! No wonder the souls in “purgatory” do not appeal to Him for help. At the bottom of the beautiful stained-glass depiction of this abomination are the words: Mère Marie, sauvez nous! (“Mother Mary, save us!”)

Such heresy does not originate in the imaginations of the artists but in tradition and dogma not only tolerated but promoted by the Roman Catholic Church. The fear of purgatory is very real to a Catholic, and “Mary” has provided an escape for those faithful to her. She allegedly appeared to St. Simon Stock on July 16, 1251, and gave him what is known as “The Great Promise”:

“Whosoever dies wearing this Scapular [two pieces of brown cloth containing Mary’s promise on one, her picture with “Baby Jesus” on the other, worn one in front, one in back, connected over the shoulder by two strings] shall not suffer eternal fire.”

Like the Mormon’s magic underwear, the Catholic’s scapular will supposedly accomplish what the death, burial, and resurrection of Christ could not. In 1322, Pope John XXII received a further promise from “Mary” known as “The Sabbatine Privilege”:

“I, the Mother of Grace, shall descend on the Saturday after their death and whomsoever I shall find in Purgatory [who died wearing the scapular], I shall free.”

St. Simon Stock’s famous prayer ends thus: “O Sweet Heart of Mary, be our salvation!”

Christmas offers a rare opportunity to share the true gospel of Jesus Christ and to expose and correct the ecumenical and confused picture it presents annually to the world. Millions are seduced into thinking they are Christians because they have a sentimental feeling for the “baby Jesus.” Let us remember what Christ said to those who believed on Him:

“If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; and ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free” (Jn 8:31-32).

It is that truth that we are called upon to proclaim in clarity and power.

How ever you and your family choose to spend these last few weeks of the year, please remember the most important commandment that Jesus gave us is:  “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.  This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” …every day of the year.

Remember these?

…can’t wait to get home and sing these with you!!!


Taken from The Official Book of Homeschooling Cartoons (


Have a blessed Thanksgiving!


This was NOT my idea…

I was out numbered…


she’s so cute, though!